It’s bitten me again…. yep the Love bug!



If you put  all my exes side by side, you notice one thing; they’re the same yet not the same. They all have great senses of humor,they all love to laugh, they are all God-fearing men, passionate and kind. But there end the similarities because physically they are as different as two men can be.

This brings me to a very interesting fact about me, I do not believe in Love at first sight. In my opinion you cannot Love someone based on how you perceive them without knowing them first and this might explain why I’ve never had a one night stand. There is also the fact that am a freakish control freak but that is a story for another day(how many stories are those that I now owe?)

Anyhew…. to really Love someone you must know them and love all of them not just the angelic good looks, great dress sense and rippled muscles.

you have to Love the good, the bad and the ugly that is in one person, you have to be willing to accept the flaws and not try to change the person, just as they must learn to Love the good, the bad and the ugly in you without trying to change you… None of us is perfect!

Hence it is my believe that what we claim to be Love at first sight is nothing more than infatuation or a slight crush… I know people who have built life long relationships from this first flutter of the heart hence am in no way trying to belittle it, however, in some instances it does lead to disillusionment and some even lose faith in Love.

Infatuation, lust, crushes can never be the foundations of a relationship and they should never be otherwise we’ll get to a point where we have marriages that are loveless and relationships of convenience; they look good so we can work with that.

Today’s Challenge is to know the one we love and see if we can live with the bad as well as the good without trying to change them.

It’s not very easy but its worth it!!




  1. Maybe there is nothin love at all.its an illusion that we have so as to make us feel great piece

    • There is love and when one feels it you know for certain its not an illusion!

  2. I like it! How much longer do you need to know me?

  3. A one night stand most if the time has nothing to do with love at first sight.

    • more often than not… we’re all about those once in a while cases when it does

  4. I like your realistic approach to the said “love bug”, you are starting of on the right note. Love, relationships are work. It is FUN. But it is WORK. Enjoy it… 🙂

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